Ariel Sprague, Neumann Chapter Member, Class of 2027

One of the biggest things I have learned through college and my involvement with CogWell is that supporting others starts with taking care of yourself. As someone who enjoys helping friends and being a person others can talk to, I used to think that being supportive meant always being available. Over time, I realized that constantly putting everyone else’s needs before my own could leave me feeling drained and overwhelmed.

Being part of CogWell has taught me that active listening is incredibly important, but it has also shown me the value of healthy boundaries. Sometimes people do not need us to fix their problems—they just need someone to listen. Understanding this has taken some pressure off me and helped me be more present in conversations without feeling responsible for solving everything.

To prioritize my own mental health, I make time for activities that help me recharge. Whether it is spending time with family and friends, playing sports, getting outside, or simply taking a break from schoolwork, these moments help me reset and manage stress. I have learned that taking care of myself is not selfish; it allows me to show up as the best version of myself for others.

Finding a balance between self-care and supporting friends is not always easy, especially during busy semesters. However, I have learned that it is okay to step back when needed and focus on my own well-being. By maintaining that balance, I am able to be a better listener, friend, and leader. Supporting others is important, but so is making sure that your own mental health is a priority.