Lucas Milgrim, UPenn Chapter Member, Class of 2027

I have found that to be able to support others, I must start by prioritizing myself. I know that I am best able to support others and be fully present in my active listening to others when I am in the proper headspace to do so, which requires that I am taking care of my needs, both physically and mentally.

Maintaining this balance is incredibly important, and I make my own health a priority by ensuring I am feeling good before I enter into a situation where I need to support others. This means practicing self-care through a wide variety of methods, and making this a priority in my day-to-day life so I can be there for others as much as I possibly can. I incorporate things like exercise and sleep into my normal daily life because my own health is a priority. If I find myself in a situation where I don’t feel prepared to support someone, I try to be open about how I am feeling and find a different time to support them. Sometimes, all the person needs is the presence of someone else, and that support I feel I can always provide.

I have learned that prioritizing oneself is essential. At times, it can feel selfish, but both you and your friends and peers benefit most from support when self-care is prioritized. Support coming from one who is not at their best is not as helpful as possible for others, and it can leave you feeling drained by the end. Ensuring that your own self-care and mental health are cared for is key to helping yourself and supporting others.